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Be All That You Can Be 
By Kathy Gates,  Life Coach
Word Count  774

Webster's defines the word resource as "something that lies ready for use or can be drawn upon for aid; a supply of something to take care of a need; wealth; assets, something that can be used for an advantage."  YOU are your greatest resource.

Your talents and your weaknesses are waiting for you to draw upon them. Your own "special blend" is something that can be used for an advantage.  Science has shown us that each of us has unique DNA, unique fingerprints, and unique body language. But have you also considered that  each person also has a unique product inside of us? 

Hiding inside you is an article or song only you can write, a tool or toy only you can invent, a picture only you can draw.  Should you choose not to use that resource,  you will deprive not only yourself, but everyone in your world of your unique contribution. 

Expectations are a part of the universe that make things happen, both negatively or positively.  Like atomic particles, universal forces cannot be explained, but plugging into them creates some kind of energy.  You don't have to be able to see it or understand it to use it.  Do you understand radio waves or computer chips?  (ok, so some people do, but I don't and I have lots of company in that boat!).  I can't see how this arrives from my computer to yours, and I don't understand it, but I sure use it.  You only have to be willing to let it happen. 

If you were not given the power of positive expectations early in life, you now have to create it for yourself.  You can live up or down to your own expectations and the expectations of others.  98% of people in prisons report that they were told by their parents or others in their lives that they would end up in prison.  They lived down to those expectations. You also have that power.  You have the power to be creative and resourceful, or you also have the power to be miserable the rest of your life. You have that choice.  You pick out an attitude just like you pick out clothes. 

Positive actions are much more powerful than positive thinking.  My mother had a great southern saying: "Wish in one hand, pour peas in the other, and see which fills up the fastest."  She meant, of course, that tangible action brings results, not just wishing it would happen.  To transform your attitude and maintain positive actions, try the following things:

• Don't expect it to happen overnight, but expect it to happen. 
• Align yourself with people who also have goals;  they'll support you when you're tired and frustrated. 
• Step out of your comfort zone; do one thing different. 
• Operate from the standpoint "as if" it had already happened. 

No, you can't simply "will" your body to heal itself, or a goal to materialize, but you can make a commitment to do whatever it takes, including consistent exercise, setting time to clean up your environment, or investing your money in a program instead of buying a new outfit. What do you want so bad you are willing to put aside other things until a later time.  YOU are your own best resource.  YOU can make that choice. 

Act as if it were impossible to fail.  Your purest, most advanced, and quickest learning took place when as a child you had no concept of failure.  You learned to walk and talk because no one ever told you that you might fail.  

"Your future is largely dependent on what you do in the present;  you must focus on what you can do right now to create the future you desire."  But I don't have this, or I don't have that, you might say.  YOU are your own best resource.  Look at your world through the eyes of someone who believes that it can happen...who doesn't even entertain the idea that it won't happen.  

Positive thinking, positive expectations, visualization, and the power of attraction, while all valid and useful are passive.  In the end, your success in life depends on what YOU DO.  No matter how positive your attitude, there is only one way to succeed, and that is in the active mode.

So how do you utilize your own best resource?

• Develop the ability to be your own best friend.
• Cooperate with life; accept Plan B. 
• Remember you're human; give yourself a break.
• Get into action  

You can sit around and wait on FedX to drop off a big box of happiness on your doorstop if you want to. But that's not going to happen anytime soon (If it does, be sure to call "Extra"!)  Or you can get up, create an action plan, and get on with your life.  It's 100% up to you.  
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